A “New” and “Old” Approach Women’s Wellness and Power
Hello, beloved community-
I hope the holiday season has been treating you well so far. As we approach the Winter Solstice (in the Northern Hemisphere) coming up this Friday, December 21st, the shortest day of the year with the least amount of daylight, I’m feeling called to go within, reflect, and rest.
This year, as I’ve stepped into my legacy work of facilitating Women of Color Healing Circles (our last one of 2018 will be held at WMN Space in Culver City, CA this Thursday, 12/20 at 7pm. Get your ticket here) and guiding all women who feel called, no matter their background, to heal and liberate injustice within their own bodies, using the jade egg and other holistic tools, I’ve become more introverted and disciplined about energy hygiene than ever before.
My number one priority as a space holder and coach is to be a clear vessel for the women who show up to receive whatever medicine/healing it is they need in that moment.
In order to be a clear vessel for healing, I’ve had to change my self-care routine dramatically.
In addition to being fierce about my new boundaries, especially around having much more alone time to recharge and compose myself, the most impactful change that has actually been happening gradually over the past several years.
It’s been a process of unlearning and remembering. Of “pulling weeds” and “planting seeds”.
My parents, unknowingly carrying so much intergenerational and ancestral trauma in their own bodies, minds, and spirits from colonization, slavery, racism, sexism, and misogyny, passed on to their children a mixed bag of internalized oppression and strategies to survive in an unforgiving, cis-heteropatriarchal, capitalist, and white supremacist world.
Of course, they didn’t use this language, and much of what they passed on to me was modeled in their behavior and attitudes.
While so much was left unspoken and in the realm of the unconscious, the message was clear: achieve, achieve, achieve, make as much money as you can, and lay low. Stand out enough to be recognized for your socially acceptable achievements, but not so much that you make other people feel uncomfortable by challenging the status quo. Don’t make waves. Be a “good worker”. Be a “lady”. Play it safe.
After everything I’ve been through during my 40 years on Mother Earth, and especially this year in which I’ve prioritized healing and integrating my own internalized oppression, ancestral, and intergenerational trauma, I’ve realized that truly “getting myself free” required a new approach to the way I live my life.
As I’ve said, this approach is something I’ve been dancing with on a casual basis for a number of years.
It’s taken some time and a massive energetic shift for me to understand that I can no longer afford to remain in a “casual” relationship with this approach for healing and liberation. The evolution of human consciousness depends on it.
This approach is extraordinarily beautiful in its simplicity and deceptively complex in its demand that I unpack all that I’ve been taught, all the stories about what is safe for me to do and what is not that are so deeply imprinted in my primal brain, and return to the ways of my ancestors that lived close to the land.
While I’m just beginning this new leg of my healing journey to dismantle internalized oppression, one thing is undeniably clear:
Women are the living embodiment of Mother Earth, also known as the Divine Feminine, and my power to create positive change in my own life and in the world is a direct outgrowth of syncing myself with the seasons, cycles, and rhythms of nature.
Think about this: you can always measure how powerful something really is by how much has been done to suppress it.
Women’s innate power has been feared for ages, for when you unleash this power, you unleash the force of nature.
Everyone knows you don’t fuck with Mother Nature.
The number one tool of the patriarchy to cut women off from their power, their connection to nature, is through shame.
We are shamed for expressing our sexuality, for having vaginas and periods, for having emotions, and basically, for not being men.
Tuning into my own seasons, cycles, and rhythms, which are a reflection of nature, as well as cultivating a healthy mind-body connection with my sexuality, has brought me closer to the Divine Feminine and allowed me to access my power in way that doesn’t feel forced.
I feel ease and flow. I’m clear and confident.
I’m no longer beating myself up for resting and turning inward when it’s all my body is calling for during Winter.
Instead of feeling selfish and guilty for releasing all that no longer serves me during the Fall, mirroring the trees as they release their leaves in preparation for Winter, I feel empowered to take a stand for what is in alignment with my highest good, knowing that what is in my highest good will radiate outwards into my inner circle, the larger community, and the world.
Each season, cycle, and rhythm of nature has its own wisdom to impart. I invite you to surrender to and receive this wisdom for your own good and the good of humanity and the planet
As women we have been conditioned by society to operate like men, elevating the masculine energy within us, at the expense of the feminine, in order to experience “success”, or at the very least, be safe.
Unfortunately, this unconscious dishonoring of the feminine leads to burn-out, dis-ease, depression, numbness, body hatred/shame, and cycling through the same relationship patterns over and over again.
For women, our power comes from embodying our authentic expression of nature and cultivating a harmonious balance of the masculine and feminine within us.
If you’re woman who is feeling disconnected and depleted and ready to step into your divine power and creativity in 2019, I have something that you’re going to love…
Seasons, Cycles, and Rhythms:
Embodying the Authentic Expression of Nature within Women
As I mentioned briefly last week, I’m excited to share that I am co-facilitating with the amazing Francesca James, founding member of Agape International Spiritual Center, on January 18th and 19th at Sanctum LA in Venice, CA, called “Seasons, Cycles, & Rhythms: Embodying the Authentic Expression of Nature within Women”.
If you’re in LA or wanting to get out of town for the holiday weekend we’d love to have you there. There is NOTHING like being in community with other like-minded womxn at a LIVE event. Francesca and I have been joyfully co-creating this experience for a while now and we can’t wait to share what we have in store for you!
Tickets are $450.00 per person, but you have access to the Early Bird tickets priced at $350.00 until 12 midnight (PST) December 31st, 2018.
Learn more and get your early bird tickets here.
Women of Color Healing Circle
If you’re a self-identified woman of color and will be in the LA area next week, please join our last “Women of Color Healing Circle” of 2018 at WMN Space in Culver City, CA on Thursday, December 20th from 7pm to 9pm.
Get your ticket by clicking here: 12/20 WMN Space in Culver City, CA
(no one will be turned away for lack of funds. Please email me directly about this at firstname.lastname@example.org)
Please follow me on Instagram @heatherrebeccawilson for regular updates on events and offerings.
Peace, love, and blessings,
PS - One of the tools we’ll be sharing during “Seasons, Cycles, and Rhythms” retreat in January is the jade egg. If you’re curious about what this powerful and transformational holistic self-care practice can do for your sexual health, personal empowerment, and spiritual growth, you don’t want to miss this event! Click here to save your spot.