The Divine Feminine is Rising
The Kavanaugh nomination/confirmation shit-show has been weighing heavily on me for the past few weeks.
Having grown up in the DC area I am well acquainted with the patriarchal, misogynist culture Dr. Christine Ford described during her moving testimony and that Judge Brett Kavanaugh failed to paint in a better light in his.
I am also a survivor of childhood sexual abuse.
Totally by accident, we had a Women of Color Healing Circle at WMN Space planned on the same day as the hearing.
What a blessing it was to be able to come together in supportive and sacred sisterhood that evening.
What an intense day. My nervous system felt completely overwhelmed and I’m still recovering.
So much was going through my mind...
As a trauma-informed coach AND as a survivor of childhood sexual abuse myself, I was very present to how much this hearing was triggering victims of sexual trauma and violence.
Energetically sending loving compassion, support, and gentleness to all survivors helped to ground me in the midst of all the chaos.
I was blown away by Dr. Ford’s courageous testimony. It felt as though she was speaking for not only herself, but for all of us.
Her words, her presence, and her bravery activated our collective pain-body around sexual trauma/violence/shame, misogyny, and sexism.
It’s all coming up to be healed now. This is a good thing!
However, it was also clear that if a perfectly “pleasing” white woman’s credible allegations of sexual assault couldn’t move the overwhelming white male senate judiciary committee to take action to protect women and not just provide lip-service, as the truly empowered Divine Masculine would, then women of color would never stand a chance.
If you’ve got the stomach for it, take a look at the Anita Hill hearings from 1991.
Women of the world: it’s all hands on deck now.
The Divine Feminine is rising. Can you feel it?
While the confirmation of Justice Kavanaugh feels like a setback, I believe we are on the precipice of real change.
Let’s be real. The election of our current president was a rude awakening to most of us who had been asleep and complacent.
Women are angry. Visibly angry. I say let it rip. This is a primal scream.
You are not your emotions and you don’t need to identify with them, but you DO need to let the energy move through your body.
Do it for yourself. Do it for your daughters. Do it for your mother. Do it for your grandmothers and all your ancestors that came before you.
Patriarchy is bad for everyone.
Any system that forces men to use violence against women in order to preserve it, hurts BOTH women and men.
We’ve got less than 30 days until the midterm elections in the US.
How can you harness this justifiable, ancestral, intergenerational rage for creative and productive purposes? How are you going to use this energy for our individual and collective healing?
All women must stand together now. November is coming.
However, in order for all women to stand together in integrity, white women must begin the work of dismantling their “white womanhood” and use their privilege to elevate the marginalized voices of women of color that have been doing this work all along.
This is not an easy process. As a multiracial woman of color who has been raised to coddle white people and enable “white fragility” (even as a diversity and inclusion practitioner I am still unlearning this deep-seated conditioning) I’m no stranger to defensiveness around this topic.
As speaker, educator, and author, Catrice Jackson would say, “white women: lay down your weapons”.
The Divine Feminine has been waiting for you to wake up. The collective is calling you to step up and take an honest look at the quality of your relationships with women of color.
Are there any women of color in your inner circle? That you would call a friend or sister? If not, why?
If so, do they feel emotionally and intellectually safe in your presence?
I urge you to lean into your discomfort as you ponder these questions.
This process is a spiritual transformation at its core.
There will be a shedding of beliefs, behaviors, and energies that no longer serve you or the collective consciousness.
This can be painful AND you are resilient.
This deep healing is what the collective is calling for now. It MUST occur in order for white women and women of color to come together in true solidarity.
Women of color are done twisting themselves into pretzels in order for white women to recognize our humanity.
That we feel pain AND that our pain is real.
To minimize or ignore our pain, to gaslight us, or to not trust that we can be accurate translators of our own experience, when we call you out or in about problematic language or behavior, is dehumanizing and cruel.
Expecting emotional and mental labor from us, demanding that women of color educate you about race, racism, and our own oppression, and in a “nice way” is also dehumanizing and cruel.
I’ve linked a few articles here but Google is an amazing resource.
“Women of today are still being called upon to stretch across the gap of male ignorance and to educate men as to our existence and our needs. This is an old and primary tool of all oppressors to keep the oppressed occupied with the master's concerns. Now we hear that it is the task of women of Color to educate white women—in the face of tremendous resistance—as to our existence, our differences, our relative roles in our joint survival. This is a diversion of energies and a tragic repetition of racist patriarchal thought.”
- Audre Lorde, Sister Outsider
So, if you’re not sure what I’m talking about or getting triggered by my mentioning race or “whiteness”, I love you enough to tell you that you are DEFINITELY in need of some reflection and healing around this topic.
This is going to be hard. There is no other way around it.
You may choose to look the other way and I hope that if you do, you can at least acknowledge your privilege in being able to do so. People of color don’t have this privilege to just “not deal with racism today”.
A reminder: YOU ARE RESILIENT.
Approach this work with a growth mindset and don’t try to be perfect.
Focus on listening and what’s going on inside your body as you process information that is going to challenge how you see yourself and how you think you are perceived.
You didn’t opt into this nonsense. We were all born into it.
It’s a deep-seated trauma inside of the body, a closing down of the heart, a primal fear of not being safe in the presence of black bodies that we’ve been conditioned and manipulated into feeling by wealthy landowners who used racism to divide and conquer in the name of maintaining their own power, cognitive dissonance, and a denial of our own humanity.
Prepare to get your heart broken into 10 million pieces.
Accept that you are going to fuck up. I fuck up all the time and I’m a diversity and inclusion practitioner and a woman of color.
I’m starting to remember my true nature that exists outside of colonization, slavery, racism, sexism, and misogyny and unlearning all this oppressive bullshit, too.
It will be the work of my lifetime to dismantle internalized oppression and I’m all in.
This is URGENT. People are suffering. People are dying. Humanity’s survival depends on it.
To ALL women:
Take a breath.
How is your body feeling in this moment?
What is your feminine wisdom and intuition telling you about what you need for your health and healing?
Despite what the patriarchy tells us, you are your greatest resource.
The tides have already are turned. The patriarchy knows the end is near and they aren’t going to go down without a fight.
Women have the power because we ARE the power.
Peace, love, and blessings,
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