Do You Have Body Love or Body Shame?

I’m writing you from a cute coffee and waffle shop in LA near my acupuncturist’s office. It’s been way too long since my last appointment and I’m so excited for my treatment!

I’ve been back in the states for almost two weeks now and I feel as though I’m just getting back into the swing of things. I’m feeling confident that this acupuncture treatment will support my further digesting and integrating this experience.

Besides realizing the power of breathwork to heal trauma in the body, I have another big takeaway to share with you.

As I said before, my week-long retreat in Tulum with the other women from my sex, love, and relationships coaching certification program was life-changing. I am now even more committed to to being a healing, loving, and empowering presence in the lives of people around me as an integrated sex, love, and relationships coach.

The other big takeaway from my trip is a new appreciation for the beauty of the female form. We spent most of time together naked. Clothing was always optional for all of our exercises, so each woman was empowered to choose whatever was most comfortable for her.

I chose to be naked for all the exercises and I feel as though it really liberated me to move massive amounts of energy through my body.

Every morning after our different jade egg practices and before we gathered for breakfast I went for a swim in the gorgeous turquoise waters of the Caribbean Sea.

Topless bathing is allowed in Tulum and I absolutely took advantage of this. I would have loved to just be naked but I didn’t feel the need to get arrested by the Mexican police during the retreat!

I didn’t always love my body. As a young girl studying ballet I wished for longer and less muscular legs. As a teenager I longed for more curves - bigger boobs and a softer stomach for belly dancing. These days I wish I had a bigger and perkier butt for twerking - no joke!

Of course, at age thirty-nine, I’m also noticing the effects of aging all over my body. I have fine lines on my forehead, gray hairs sprouting all over the place, and I’m starting to see deeper lines my neck.

However, thanks to a regular yoga sculpt practice, mostly clean eating, and good genes, I’m looking pretty damn good for a thirty-nine year old.

My body isn’t perfect but I love it. I love how strong and powerful it is. I love how resilient it is.

It allowed me to push it to it’s absolute edge by freezing ten eggs in 2015. I ran the Honolulu Marathon in 2001. I enjoyed years of dancing, swimming, track and field, and field hockey because it was so tough and flexible.

I’m proud of this body. With all of its cellulite and scars, I love my body.

Are you proud of your body? Do you have body love or body shame?

True thriving in sex, love, and relationships isn’t possible without a healthy relationship with your body.

If you desire to improve your relationship with your body, try talking to it. What wisdom does it have to share with you? Make a commitment to having conversations with your body every day for the next 7 days. Record your findings in a journal. Be gentle and patient with yourself through this process. Be open. Let your intuition guide you.

I hope this serves you.

All my love and gratitude,

Heather xoxo


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