The Dangers of Love “Blindspots”
Hey there, gorgeous!
It’s a beautiful day in Los Angeles and I’m soaking up the sun as much as possible.
I’m busy prepping for my trip to Maui - I can’t believe I’ll be in this tropical paradise in less than 2 weeks!
I’ll be meeting my parents there and Loren will be staying here in the LA area. We’ll all miss him, but I find that as much as I would love to enjoy the beauty of Maui with him, I appreciate having separate adventures from time to time..
Keeping some individuality keeps things fresh and helps to maintain a high level of desire in our relationship.
I have a wonderful life with my man AND I had a wonderful life before him. He doesn’t need to go everywhere with me and I actually don’t want him to.
However, if you knew me several years ago, I was not as independent. I would miss my boyfriends so much if they traveled without me and give them a ton of s*** about it when they returned.
It made me nervous and uneasy to be away from them and I resented them for “putting me in that position”.
Looking back, the anxiety I was experiencing wasn’t about what they were or were not doing “to me”. I was anxious because I wasn’t secure in the relationship. In addition, I was unconsciously putting myself in that position, not them.
However, feeling anxious about how my partner felt about me was the NORM.
Due my own childhood conditioning and experience as a young person, as painful as it was, this feeling of uncertainty wasn’t out of the ordinary.
Also, if something better was out there, it was for “other” people. I didn’t think I was “good enough” to experience joy and happiness in my love life.
Thankfully, I woke up to the reality that you get what you’re available for. I decided that I was no longer available to be in a relationship where I didn’t feel 100% secure.
We ALL have “blindspots” - especially when it comes to love, sex, and relationships.
With that being said, give some thought to what you might be settling for in your life. Consider the person or situation who is giving you the most grief right now. How much of that are you justifying because you don’t know anything else?
If you’re ready to attract the loving partnership you desire this year, shining a light on the limiting beliefs and emotional blocks that are holding you back is vital.
In this way, you can begin to do the healing work necessary to become emotionally available for your dream relationship.
I hope this serves you.
All my love and gratitude,
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