Confused As to Why You Haven’t Found Love Yet? Look Here...
Hey there, gorgeous!
I hope you had a fun Halloween. I went to a very lively costume party in Venice with a large group of friends and my man. It was an absolute blast - it fact, I had such a good time that I forgot to take pictures!
Today, I’m busy prepping for another trip back to the East Coast to celebrate one of my best friend’s nuptials (remember the couple I told you about who met off of Tinder? - that’s them).
As the holidays quickly approach, I’ve been thinking a lot recently about my family and how grateful I am to have so much love in my life and such a fantastic support system. I’m looking forward to catching up with everyone this week.
When I think about family in the context of romantic relationships, if we find ourselves experiencing disappointment, confusion, and frustration, it’s often because we’ve inherited the limiting beliefs or emotional baggage of our own parents.
For women, our relationship with our fathers is the template for our relationships with men. The same goes for men and their mothers - this relationship is the model for interacting with women (I’m obviously describing hetero relationships here, but regardless of sexual preference or gender identity, our parents are the single greatest influence on how we relate to others and ourselves).
Our parents’ relationship is also the model we build on for our own romantic relationships. We learn from our mothers how to treat men; and from our fathers, how to treat other women.
Since we’re in a semi-hypnotic state until about the age of six where we pick up on EVERYTHING our parents do or don’t do, say or don’t say, and these learnings go straight to the deepest part of our brains (our unconscious mind), we usually aren’t even aware of them.
So, if you seem to be hitting a brick wall over and over again when it comes to your romantic relationships, I would begin to take a look at what was modeled for you during childhood.
As you revisit the past and begin to uncover that perhaps your parents didn’t model how to have healthy relationships, I have a piece of advice: do not make your parents wrong.
No one is perfect and no one can give you what they don’t possess themselves. We all do the best we can with what we have.
If they didn’t model how to have healthy relationships (with others or with themselves), it’s only because no one modeled that for them.
Have compassion and let them have whatever beliefs they need to in order to feel safe in the world.
As an adult, once you realize where you might have some gaps in your relationship skills, YOU are perfectly capable of addressing them by becoming a student of emotional intelligence.
Be proactive. Read books. Watch videos. Get support. Remember, you are responsible for your life and have the power to make it what you want.
If you’re a high-achieving, independent woman who is done settling in relationships and ready to take responsibility for your love life, I invite you to sign up for a 90-minute Mini-Intensive with me this week.
This offer was specifically designed to help you:
- take a deep dive into the limiting beliefs and/or emotional blocks that are keeping you from attracting your DREAM RELATIONSHIP/PARTNER.
- get clear and specific about your dream partner, so that your energy is in alignment and you can magnetize him or her to you
- develop an action plan to help you begin to “call in” your dream relationship/partner
You have the power to create the love you desire and I can’t wait to show you how.
I only have 6 spots available so reserve yours NOW. Also, prices will go up in 2017 so this is an awesome opportunity to work with me one-on-one at a very reasonable rate.
All my love and gratitude,
P.S. Have you joined my awesome Facebook group, “The Creative Living Revolution”, yet? It’s the place to be for high-achieving, independent women who are done settling and instead want to activate their “creative genius” to attract the love and life they desire. Come on over and say hi by clicking here.