I Have a Confession to Make...
Hi, friends. I have a confession to make:
6 years ago I was an Ivy League graduate stuck at a low-paying, dead-end job in Beverly Hills, CA that I hated. I was full of incredible shame about not having a life that measured up to the investment my parents made in my education, and other family, cultural, and societal expectations. I felt like an absolute failure. In an attempt to make a plan to move forward with my life, I got as far as doing an inventory of what aspects of my life I was grateful for and aspects that I'd like to change. Due to my perfectionist/"I'm not enough" blueprint, instead of focusing on the positive, I self-abandoned and began to beat myself up. Also, I attracted a partner into my life that was emotionally abusive and reflected my serious lack of self-love.
However, we all know that the universe always has a bigger plan for us, and this relationship led me back home to Washington, DC to start fresh. Returning home to my family and starting a job at my old alma mater allowed me to build my confidence again as I began to uncover the self-limiting beliefs, emotional blocks, and unconscious survival behaviors that kept me playing safe and small. I ended that relationship and continued to learn important lessons from new romantic partners that the universe brought into my life.
As I examined the remains of another failed relationship at age 35, I decided that things needed to change. What I was doing was clearly not working. However, I was not going to self-abandon. Not this time. I humbled myself, hit my knees, and asked for help. I was intuitively guided to an amazing coach who helped me identify my limiting beliefs about myself and together we created a plan change them. I rewired my brain, replacing self-doubt and negativity with a positive self-identity and affirmation. Through working with a coach and participating in some fantastic professional development opportunities in the realm of diversity and inclusion, I discovered that the roots of my self-limiting beliefs came from growing up as a multiracial person in the very white world of Northern Virginia independent schools, with no positive role-models to show me to how embrace my multiracial identity. I never felt Black enough for the Black side of my family, Filipino enough for my Filipino side, or white enough for my friends at school. I never felt like I was enough. Breaking free from these self-limiting beliefs has been the best and most beautiful thing that has ever happened to me.
Every day I choose love over fear, and every day that I do so I am filled with joy and appreciation, bursting with creativity, and inspired to help others do the same. Now, EVERYTHING flows - money, love, creativity, etc.
Two years ago I struggled with self-esteem and didn't think I deserved success. Today, as an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and women's success coach, I present at national conferences to inspire students and educators to create diverse and inclusive learning environments, where every young person, no matter their background, can cultivate a positive self-identity.
However, I’m not unique. Everyone has a story like this. As you read these words I invite you to look inward and reflect on what your story might be. Was there one experience that you can remember that colors the way you think about yourself and the world? What messages have you internalized about yourself and others? Do you have a positive self-identity? If so, why? If not, maybe you can piece together why that is and start turning that ship around so that you too can break free from self-limiting beliefs and share your gifts with the world.
HAPPINESS, PEACE OF MIND, AND THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS ARE AVAILABLE TO ANYONE WHO IS WILLING TO THINK DIFFERENTLY, SURRENDER TO LOVE, AND MAKE THE DECISION TO BE THE BADASS THAT YOU KNOW YOU'RE MEANT TO BE.
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Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for letting me share my story and have a beautiful day!